High expectations with low support can lead to burnout, stress, and other negative outcomes:
Burnout: When expectations are high but control is low, it can lead to burnout.
Stress: Setting expectations that are too high can lead to stress.
Low self-esteem: Children raised by authoritarian parents, who have high expectations but low warmth, may have lower self-esteem.
Rebellion: Children raised by authoritarian parents may rebel against authority as they grow up.
Fear of intimacy: Expecting too much of others can lead to a fear of intimacy.
Giving up: When people fall short of expectations, they may become concerned about what others think and give up.
High expectations can be beneficial when they lead to increased effort, persistence, and better performance. However, it's important to make sure that expectations are clear and that there is enough support to meet them.
The main difference between authoritative and authoritarian parenting is the way parents set limits and boundaries for their children:
Authoritative
Parents are nurturing, responsive, and supportive, but also set firm limits and expectations. They use reasonable rules, explain them, and discuss them with their children. They also encourage independence and value their children's opinions. When limits are crossed, authoritative parents use natural consequences to help their children learn.
Authoritarian
Parents are rigid and demanding, and use strict rules to control their children. They are less nurturing, and don't allow much flexibility or dialogue. When limits are crossed, authoritarian parents may use inappropriate punishment or humiliation.
Children raised by authoritative parents are often more confident, responsible, and emotionally healthy than children raised by authoritarian parents. They also tend to have higher self-esteem and do well academically.